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You’re a people person and fall in love easily...but when it comes to conflict?
You freeze....
And you RUMINATE about …
Your mind spins trying to predict reactions, avoid disconnection, and keep the peace — while anxiety builds and resentment quietly grows underneath it all.
Part of you hopes they’ll eventually notice.
That they’ll read between the lines.
That they’ll just get it without you having to risk saying it out loud.
You’re not telling your partner how exhausting it feels to walk on eggshells so you don’t bruise their ego when you have feedback.
You’re not FULLY saying how unmet you feel when they aren’t present with you at dinner… even though what you deeply crave is connection, presence, and to feel chosen.
And sometimes?
You fantasize about how much easier it would be to leave and start over.
Not because you don’t care…
Because speaking your truth feels terrifying when your nervous system has learned that honesty could create conflict, rejection, distance, or defensiveness.
The things you’re not saying, yet you’re having all these thoughts and driving yourself crazy with anxiety + creating resentment, HOPING they will eventually read your mind
You’re not telling your partner how burdened you feel that you have to walk on eggshells so you don’t bruise their ego when you have feedback from them
You’re not FULLY saying how unmet you feel becuase they aren’t present with you at dinner, or how all you want is their presence
So you tell yourself that starting over with someone new would be easier than having the hard conversation.
yet…if you start over with someone or something new…
WILL YOU… speak your truth?
In my experience with 1000’s of clients, the answer is usually no — not because you’re broken, incapable, or weak…
But because patterns rooted in protection tend to repeat until they’re understood with compassion and consciously changed.
At some point, you learned it was safer to manage other people’s emotions than honor your own needs.
You will find yourself…
Start the sentence about how you want more from them… then you soften it with “it’s okay, I know how much you have going on at work,” even though you have that much going on with work, and… you don’t hurt their feelings or deal with their defensive behavior when you speak your truth.
You minimize your needs to avoid hurting their feelings…
Or to avoid the discomfort of their defensiveness when you finally speak honestly.
You feel the truth rise inside of you…
Then censor yourself to avoid the vulnerability of ASKING for what you desire.but wait for a “better moment that NEVER comes.”
You type the text… read it back… rewrite it three times
Then throw it into ChatGPT with the prompt “make it sound easier for them to swallow.”
Then immediately wonder:
Did I say the wrong thing?
Did I ask for too much?
Are they upset with me now?
And underneath all of it…
Is a version of you that deeply longs to feel safe telling the truth without fearing abandonment, conflict, or loss.
Are you willing to own the pattern you created, or are you going to CHOOSE to ignore it, HOPING it will get better over time?
Your chest tightens
Your breath gets shallow
Your body braces just slightly
And instead of staying with it…
You:
explain more than you need to
make it sound more reasonable
turn your desire into a thesis
turn a no into a maybe…that is a compromise, so you keep the connection?
Or maybe…
You’re not attuned to your body, yet you find yourself saying things like
I feel anxious, and it’s their fault
You’re clenching and bracing for the moment they are going to say the wrong thing and hurt your feelings AGAIN… yet you DON’T TELL THEM WHAT YOU NEED TO FEEL SAFE, CONNECTED, AND LOVE AGAIN…
So you find yourself in codependent behaviors DEMANDING comfort + leadership from your partner when you KNOW THAT IT REQUIRES YOU TO BE WILLING TO ASK FOR WHAT YOU NEED instead of HIDING behind the trauma responses you’ve agreed to UNTIL NOW…
You’re not unaware
You’re precise
You can read the room
feel the tone
anticipate the reaction
You know exactly how to stay connected
And that’s the problem
Because it doesn’t just happen in conversations
It happens:
When you want more… but act like you’re okay
When something doesn’t feel good… but you let it go
When you’re in having sex… and your body is there, but your attention isn’t
When they say something that lands wrong… and you tell yourself, “it’s not a big deal”
You stay present
But not fully there
Later…
You replay it
The conversation
The moment
The look on their face
The thing you almost said
And you can feel it
That wasn’t actually you
This is where we slow it down enough to see it
Not the big patterns
The micro ones
The ones that happen:
right before you ask for what you want… and don’t
right after you say “it’s fine”… when it’s not
in the pause where you could go deeper… but shift the topic instead
in the moment you feel discomfort… and move away from it
This is about communication
but not the kind you’ve already learned
You already know how to:
express yourself clearly
hold space for others
stay calm under pressure
be thoughtful with your words
That’s not what’s breaking down
It’s what happens in the moment
when something real is on the line
attraction
desire
disappointment
conflict
the risk of being fully seen
That’s where you change
Subtly
Quickly
Automatically
🌀 The Experience
SEE + EXPOSE
Where you catch yourself in real time
the exact moment you start editing what’s true
where you disconnect while still looking “present”
how you communicate around what you actually mean
why the same dynamics keep repeating… even now
INTERRUPT + CHOOSE
Where you feel what it takes to stay
Say what you want without adjusting it mid-sentence
let silence land without filling it
stay in your body when tension rises
not rush to fix, explain, or smooth things over
This is for you if…
you’re highly aware… and still catch yourself mid-adjustment
you can feel what’s true… but don’t always follow it through on what you KNOW
you communicate well… but not always honestly
you want deeper intimacy… but notice where you pull back because your scared
you’re ready to see the subtle ways you leave yourself
This is not
a place to learn what to SAY
It’s a place to see
What happens to you
right before you speak your TRUTH…
What do you leave with when you choose UNDRESSED?
✔️ A brutally honest understanding of how you continue to behave that isn’t working ANYMORE for what you DESIRE in this chapter of your LIFE
✔️ Permission the kind your body has been begging for yet your mind doesn’t allow you to FEEL
✔️ Emotional sobriety + safety that is sustainable for your new way of relating to yourSELF
✔️ A nervous system with more flexibility + capacity (not just a mindset shift)
✔️ Clarity + compassion for how your younger parts hijack you in the moments that you are about to speak your truth and FUMBLE your words or AVOID it altogether in fear that you will F.CK it up..
✔️ Permission to choose the version of you that’s READY TO EMERGE in spite of these old strategies
✔️ A felt sense of what separates Regroovin’ ™ + how I hold space from other coaching programs out there
Your body already knows the truth
This series helps you listen without running or freezing.
When we meet
June 13 @ 10 am PST, 1 pm EST
June 20 @ 10 am PST 1 pm EST
Live on ZOOM
After this, it gets harder to miss
The moment you start rewriting your words
The moment your body braces
The moment you shift away from what’s true
And once you see it
You can’t unsee it
Join UNDRESSED
You don’t ONLY come here to get better at communication…
You come here to see
What changes + WHY right before you’re about to tell your TRUTH
and hang in the tension of not KNOWING how it will be RECEIVED…
This is where the PRETENDING STOPS + you FEEL into just how much CAPACITY you have to be fully UNDRESSED + LOVED + ON-PURPOSE simultaneously.
About your Mentor
Amy is a Somatic Trauma-Trained Business + Relationship Coach + Addiction Recovery Expert trained in Polyvagal Theory, IFS (Parts Work), Somatic Inner Child & Attachment Healing, and a slew of other trauma-informed modalities. She is the Creator of Regroovin’ ™ methodology +
Headmistress of The School of Regulation for Leaders
Many years ago, I was lying in a twin-sized bed in a Northern California treatment center, jaw tight, body braced, wondering if I’d ever FEEL safe to be myself
That bed is where I remembered why I fell in love with yoga, breathwork, and bone broth.
It’s where I realized trauma doesn’t just “happen in your past,” it lodges itself in your nervous system, in how you and I show up in relationships, in your bank account, in your bedroom, in your relationship to ALL OF YOUR CHOICES.
I spent two messy years getting down to the ROOT of my pain, determined to regroove my nervous system. And I am…
Since then, I’ve devoted myself to the practices that set me FREE to explore what I DESIRE + what no longer works for me…
Free to show up fully in my business.
Free to speak my truth in love.
Free to LEAD without FAKING IT TILL I MAKE IT
My work is about piercing through what you hide, so you can actually live without FAKING IT… and instead growing your capacity to STOP HIDING and be you.
I’ve learned to love the softness, chaos, and desires of my feminine being + LONGING OF The WOMAN I am behind the curtain, the RAW, imperfect me who eats with my hands and yes, does push up against all things that the world tells me to be…
while maturing my inner masculine (the part of me that I led with for so long) into the rock that holds my structures, success, and my money in just the right spot for me…
I don’t teach theory. I guide you to TRAIN your NERVOUS SYSTEM to FLEX when you need it to and RELAX when your body NEEDS it.
I teach what I’ve lived and what I continue to practice + live every day.
I bring together conscious LEADERS, like you, who are choosing to use your trauma as a teacher, into who you are becoming as a result of what you’ve experienced, and are now devoted to practicing emotional healing and consistent growth so that you may live in self-trust, own your power, share your magic with the world,
while creating RICH LEGACIES
-- Amy
